New Survey: Over 60% of BDSM Participants Have Cheated on Partners

Talking about BDSM with a committed partner probably feels awkward and embarrassing to most people. While BDSM desires and fantasies are typical, talking about them out loud remains a taboo subject.

And that’s just one reason why people tend to cheat on significant others with a BDSM partner.

So why is BDSM cheating so rampant?

Well, a number of reasons, according to a new BDSM survey.

32% of the people surveyed expressed discomfort in talking about BDSM desires with their current partner. That’s the point we discussed in our opening paragraphs; it is rather apparent. People don’t feel comfortable asking their wives to spank them because they spilled a glass of milk on the counter. And rightfully so. 

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Another 26% experienced discomfort in introducing BDSM into the relationship. I’m not clear on how this differs from the original point; it seems related. How can you introduce BDSM without first discussing it? Unless, of course, these surveyed folks did discuss it, but implementation failed. 

17% of these people were searching for a new sense of self. In these cases, it doesn’t feel as though the cheating could have been stopped. 

13% cheated with a BDSM partner for “The seductive nature of the transgression”. But, again, these people were going to cheat no matter what.

The major takeaway is that BDSM is hard to talk about and even harder to try with an inexperienced partner. And due to this, many people want to fulfill both their need for a relationship and their desire for a little pain and dominance. 

“I am living a happy married life with my wife, but she seems totally not into kinks even if we’ve tried many times to start from something less kinky, like spanking, flogging. Anyway, I’ve given up on the idea of changing her, and found someone to share my fantasies already.”

There are many, many reasons why people cheat. We don’t want to put all of this on the BDSM community. Communication breakdowns typically lead the list of reasons why people cheat, in the case of BDSM cheating, it’s the same. 

But at the same time, these statistics open our eyes to why so many people use BDSM dating sites like this one to find a partner. So many BDSM couples are in long-term relationships. And they don’t need to cheat because the communication between the two of them is wide open. And that’s the critical factor to note.